"Candor" by Charles Causey is a great read for anyone wanting to speak appropriate truth in the appropriate way and time. In our day of both hypersensitivity to differing viewpoints and "telling it like it is" regardless of other people's feelings, Candor is a timely read. The title is around 170 pages and covers many topics on the subject, including:
- What candor is not (hint- not just saying anything you want and being tactless).
- 4 keys of candor.
- Enemies of candor.
- Description of the leader whose character both models and allows for candor (really like this point - leaders need to create climate where direct reports should feel comfortable in stating truth).
- Candor skills for a leader.
- Ways team members can enhance candor with with their leaders.
- Suggestions for using candor in your family and work relationships.
- Practical ways for expressing candor in friendships.
Things I really liked about the book:
- Written from a Christian perspective - good to see Christian believers using the Bible as the basis for speaking the truth in love and tact. Too many times I've seen those who call themselves believers feel like either they need to "stuff it" and being afraid of saying the truth when truth needs to be said in a loving way. Have also seen those in the Christian world resort to "saying it like it is" without tact and consideration for the way they come across (not a good testimony to an unbelieving world).
- The book is easy to read and smoothly flows from chapter to chapter.
- Covers a wide variety of relevant topics on this subject.
- Good balance of using the Bible, the author's personal experiences, and other peoples' experiences when making a point. I liked his examples from his military experience as a chaplain (I was an Air Force Officer for five years - not as a chaplain - and can relate to some of his experiences).
- Writing style is to the point and not longwinded when making a point.
- Good practical suggestions to use in any setting (home, church, work, public, etc.).
The only criticism I really have is the author could have mentioned more about the fear of God in his book. For example, he mentions in chapter 2 the enemies/obstacles to candor (cynicism, coldness towards others, fear, lack of confidence, etc.). While I certainly agree with the enemies/obstacles the author mentions, an underlying factor seems to be the fear of people. In our people-pleasing culture, I believe this issue could have been addressed more. Additionally, I would have liked to have seen the author mention much more about the fear of God as a way to overcome the fear of using candor. I read in a book years ago in which the author, a Christian counselor, said that "fear of God will go a long way in taking care of the problem of fearing people". I really believe our culture has turned its back on God so much that we fear people much more than we fear God Almighty! A very insightful and helpful comment! Proverbs 29:25 reminds me to fear God more than fearing people. While I'm still a work of progress in this Bible verse, I can assure you that it's real and true!
Comment aside, I believe "Candor" is a great read and a very helpful aid to today's world. Highly recommended. I was given a review copy by Moody Publishers in exchange for a fair review and appreciate the opportunity.