I was so interested in this book given today's current culture plagued with the social media fix. It's become too easy for people to stay silent or to speak extremely disrespectfully and given the nature of social media, these words or lack of words are done without ever having to face others in the real world. Our digital voice has become an excuse for lack of candor which had ended up infiltrating our face to face interactions as well.
Causey structures the book with eight chapters, including an introduction and 3 appendices. He spends a good deal of time discussing the definition of candor and how many people misunderstand what candor actually is. He also presents several "enemies" of candor or obstacles to one achieving candor.
He provides a plethora of practical and real life situations and experiences of how candor can and has been played out in the real world in a way that is loving and respectful. These were quite insightful and encouraging but also very relatable to anyone who is reading the book.
I appreciate chapter seven, which addresses the issue of expressing candor with difficult people. These are people who don't understand candor and that its foundation is love and respect. He presents practical ideas on how to achieve candor with this kind of people and acknowledging that in some instances, it's just not going to work. Candor, to some extent, requires both sides to be willing and understanding. If one side refuses, it will be nearly impossible to get anywhere.
He provides three appendices that are very useful:
- The 22 strategies for effective candor
- The eight candor commitments
- Discussion questions for groups
I appreciated his bold approach to this concept.
I received a copy of this book from Moody Publishers in exchange for an honest review.