Whether parents lose a baby during pregnancy, at birth, or shortly thereafter, the grief that follows is a unique kind of grief. Often, the parents themselves even experience grief differently. Holding Onto Love After You’ve Lost a Baby, by Dr. Gary Chapman and Candy McVicar, is based upon the principles of the 5 Love Languages, and hones in on how spouses can consider the 5 Love Languages when supporting and caring for their grieving spouse. Alongside these discussions, Dr. Chapman and McVicar also explore how grief impacts relationships within families and between friends. One chapter notes the layers of grief and this very accurate concept is exemplified well throughout Holding Onto Love.
As a momma who lost a child through miscarriage, I found myself holding back tears (unsuccessfully) within the first few paragraphs of chapter one and continuing throughout Holding Onto Love. Though Dr. Chapman and McVicar are coauthors, it is McVicar’s writing that captures the varied and intense emotions of grieving a baby, this due to her personal experiences. Holding Onto Love will be a resource I recommend to mothers grieving a pregnancy or infant loss.
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publisher in order to write an honest, unbiased review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.