Things I Wish I'd Known Before My Child Became a Teenager Review

Book Review: 

I have read several of Chapman's books and have enjoyed all of them so I had no doubt that this one would be just a wonderful.

Outside of our own young children, we also foster a teenage girl. This has definitely been new territory for us with a huge learning curve. Because of this, I'm willing and ready to soak up any and all wisdom regarding parenting teenagers.

Chapman structures the book with twelve chapters, each addressing an issue he wished he'd known before his children became teenagers. Some of the chapter titles are the following:

- That Teens are Developing the Ability to Think Logically

- That Teens are Moving Toward Independence

- That Teens Need Guidance

- That a Parent's Model is More Important Than Their Words

Each chapter follows a similar format that includes three sections:

- Introducing the concept

- Going Deeper: provides additional resources

- Think About It: questions to consider how the concept applies directly to you and your teenager

I loved every chapter and gained much wisdom from Chapman's advice, insights and experience. I do believe most of the chapters are applicable to all ages of children, not just teenagers. And more specifically, they are needed at a younger age rather than initiating at the teenage years. For example, one chapter discusses the fact that teens need to learn how to process anger. This is obviously a healthy thing to teach teenagers but isn't it also a healthy thing to teach younger kids as well?

Due to our foster/adoptive backgrounds, my husband and I have attended many conference that speak on the developing brain of children from all ages. Research has made it very clear that our brains are not fully developed until about age 25. Children and teens are missing portions of their brains because they are not fully developed yet which directly impacts their ability to do certain things such as reason and cope with emotions. Chapman touches on this throughout the book and the need for parents to understand this when it comes to interpreting our children's behaviors.

I received a copy of this book from Moody Publishers in exchange for an honest review.